You know,
thinking back to the way we are and how we’re taught to approach life has me really upset. Terms like M.O.P., money over bitches, and chase money because women will chase you. Even more socially accepted methods of inspiring us to do the same thing are: “get a good job so you can get a good wife.” “Makes lots of money so you can have the girl of your dreams.”
This has really come to a head. I’m living by a different code. P.O.M. If we are to chase money and let women follow, is that building a fundamentally sound, successful, healthy relationship on solid ground? How do we fall into the trap of thinking we can have someone that we can be happy with if we only are successful enough?
Not for me. I’m all about having a establishing a connection with one (or three… MAYbe… ok at, most) people that are stimulating. The best things aren’t free anymore. But they’re cheap. I have yet to be on a cruise but I bet when I do, it’ll pale in comparison to the day I had on a little fishing boat. Using boating as a (loose) analogy, I think our culture, specifically Hip-Hop culture has gotten dudes to think we need the biggest, most luxurious boat possible. We need YACHTS! But we needs yachts that don’t move. Or we get so caught up on the yacht, we forget why we’re in a boat in the first place.
In terms of relationships, I believe we’re taught to buy (a term I equate to notions like “make a lot of money so you can have big house, nice car, beautiful wife, etc) the most expensive woman we can. It matters not that we have no money to put some petro in it so we can go somewhere (petro being equated to common interests, shared experiences, anything to have the relationship progress).
What if our early lives were meant to engage people? In ideas, ways of thinking, empiricism on a community level. A sort of casual dating scene. You find someone attractive enough to listen to. Or hear an idea you’d love to hear someone speak about. These are the things that we need to JOINTLY foster in our social scenes. Talk first, then think about what could be potentially, the fruitful beginning of the rest of your life.
Chase the money. Get the women you think you want and see where you are years from now. Looking pretty with no gas is just that, looking pretty. Looking pretty with the ability to go places, that’s where it’s at.
boat analogy/ best boat experience was on tug boat/ don’t think cruise are largest and least amount of water