Lady meets guy. Lady and guy like each other. Enough time has elapsed. Lady and guy exchange The Business. No real thoughts of relationship and both agreed that isn’t worthy of pursuit for the time being. For now, a friendly/physical relationship.
Now lady expresses her satisfaction. Thoroughly. Enough to do it again sooner than later.
Second time wasn’t nearly as satisfying as the first but she gives him a free pass. Can’t always hit home runs. The third exchange of Business doesn’t compare to the first time either. Now ladies, my question to you: when do you give up on that situation? How many attempts do you give a man to “do his thing” before you no longer feel he is capable of satisfying you?
Thinking about this situation, I tried to flip it and consider it from a male’s POV. I asked my self, “Self, who have you had terrible sex with recently?” And you know, I had to sit and think for a bit. Not to say I haven’t had a cohort that was sub-par or haven’t been at my prime myself. I just can’t really think of too many situations where I said, “I’m not doing this anymore”. There have been the dreaded cadavers. The ones that don’t participate because the first encounter is some sort of rite of passage or interview. There have also been the inquisitors. Participation doesn’t mean asking every 39 seconds if I’m enjoying myself or what I’d have you do. I have to stop mid-stroke and say, “I’m not comfortable with you angling yourself that way. Lets stop and regroup.”
On the contrary, I will deal with the rug burns and lint-laden dreads. I’ll tolerate the Love Spell fragrance that has become a household item, much like the Foreman Grille. I’ve begrudgingly dealt with the conversationalists that make it a personal competition to say as many words in between breaths as possible. I really only have a gripe with the ones that feel like I owe them something.
This notion of “proving yourself” goes both ways. I critique the episode just like you do, and I’m not the only guy that does so. ‘A nut is a nut is a nut’ went out with the1940’s perception of a healthy relationship. I ask:
Have women been let down more than guys?
Do guys deserve to be on three judging panel as well?
Is there a specific amount of attempts someone is owed before dismissal?